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01/21/2010

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A friend suggested I start blogging. Blogging, really? And so after some trial and error I'm addicted. I love blogging because it’s cathartic. The exercise of writing helps me work through the humor of motherhood and the complexity of relationships. My blog and I suspect many other bloggers, feel the freedom to write about things that may not be talked about openly. My new blogging motto should be: life is tough – blog about it. Ha!
It’s also refreshing to see other bloggers, especially Mom’s, finding themselves again. My 16 month old isn’t all that interested in my philosophical question of the day, so my blog becomes the voice that isn’t heard during daylight. Through this experience, I’ve found myself connecting with other bloggers – which was a lovely surprise. Blogging friends are kind, supportive and interesting.
This ‘hobby’ has become an outlet and the identity that I needed when I decided to stay at home with my baby girl. And so I ask all the bloggers out there, why do you enjoy blogging?

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I went to see the Sex in the City movie tonight with a good friend. It was nice to get away and spend some time with a fellow female. The movie was just fine but a particular scene between Charlotte and Miranda stood out. They were talking about how hard it is to admit that parenting isn’t all balloons and giggles. Even more so, that it’s heartbreaking when you realize you are not a perfect parent. On those days you tend to reminisce about your life pre-kids. I love my daughter and my life and cannot imagine it any other way. That said having a night away from the lil’ munchkin, much like tonight, is a necessity. These nights give me a breath of air to think more clearly about who I am. We all need a little time away from our day to day, don’t we?

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Controlling our attention seems to be really really hard these days. Between all the e-communication and multi-dimensional lives, it’s no wonder we all have a very hard time focusing. The most interesting and dare I say rude observance of this time is the cell phone. There is an expectation that people should be available whenever, wherever. I’m not a fan of people who, during a conversation, pull out their cell phone to retrieve a call or text message. All their action is telling me is that I’m no longer interesting and said text will most certainly be.
Thanks, thanks a lot.
My sister was a classic “gotta look at my texts even though I’m having a face to face conversation with you”, kind of a gal. During one of her quarterly visits we were chatting, well I was chatting with her and she was chatting and texting. So I said to her, while looking at her phone, “Is everything okay?” She responded by saying, “Yeah, her dog watcher just texted something funny about the dogs”. Okay I like dogs, but, Really? So I said to her, “I find it interesting that you’re here for a visit but you are more interested in what’s going on elsewhere.” My sweet dear sister then put her cell phone away.
So my question is what’s with our need to be so connected all the time? Are we starving for more meaningful connections yet fill them with 10 characters or less?

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Today I asked my dear sweet husband if he noticed any changes in me since I'm home. Now I’ll preface his answer by saying I ask him ‘out of the blue, uber serious questions’ all the time and he looks at me like, ‘Come On’. So back to his response, he says, “Well you don’t worry about work anymore, so you are less worried”. I laughed! Of course that is not the answer I hoped for, it was a very safe answer. I wanted him to say well, darling, amazing, talented, wife you seem blissfully happy on the inside and out (or something cheesy like that). The purpose of this post is to poke fun at my continual need to evaluate any situation I’m in. Equally as funny are my husband’s non-serious responses to my serious questions. My evaluations are less about being insecure than my attempt to seek to understand the situation beyond me and my perception. When you take yourself too seriously, you definitely don’t need a partner that feeds that need. So me being me, it’s time for a question….Are you a constant evaluator of life? If so, do you find it constructive or destructive?

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Interested in another option instead of your traditional wine or champagne? On a trip to La Jolla, CA, we discovered a light sparking wine called Brachetto d’Acqui. Very often this is a light dessert aperitif but I like it in place of champagne. This is a nice alternative to your traditional sparkling wine and in my opinion the perfect summer beverage. Another asset of this wine is that it has less alcohol than its friends, typically 5.5%. It’s not too sweet or too dry which equates to pure goodness. You can find a good Brachetto d'Acqui for $15.00. If you are still not convinced, it is believed that Cleopatra used this wine to seduce Julius Caesar. So hey, if it’s good enough for Cleopatra and Julius, than it’s good enough for me! Got any good summer beverages to share?

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Now that I’m a stay at home, I find taking trips is fundamental to my sanity. Prior to baby, I took trips for granted; now I count down the days to abort ship. About a month ago, my husband told me we had to postpone an impending trip by 7 days because of work. I almost died inside! Did he have any idea how much I was looking forward to this trip, how much I needed this trip? Of course he didn’t, when I worked out of the house I didn’t think trips were as special as I currently do. Now that I’m home all day, the anticipation of a trip is a mental sanctuary. So if you are a stay at home and getting a little stir crazy, do everyone a favor and plan a trip, even if it’s for one night. For reference, we will be leaving on our next trip in 43 days. Have you become trip crazy?

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I like asking questions. Beyond my philosophical need to question things, I like to question people about their lives and why they think the way they do. In general, I think people are fascinating and even more so when you uncover how they really think. The older I get, the more I find there is a lack of interest among people during conversation. So many times I hear people talking about themselves and not inquiring about others in the conversation. Why is that? Have we become so self-centered that we only like to talk about ourselves or am I the only one that feels this way? What do you think, honestly?

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Roberto, mental hunger to me means that I need to have a conversation or a hobby that uses my mind. I recently retired from my career to stay at home with our young daughter. If I didn't have blogging to keep my mind active beyond working to raise a good human being, I might starve.

Roberto Edeler

Mental hunger is a constant with me until I feed it with
new information, activities, people, and truths about myself.
What on a deeper level does Mental Hunger mean to any of you out there in blog world?

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Recently my husband and I stumbled onto a show on HGTV called Marriage Under Construction. It’s a 13 episode series that highlights a Canadian couple as the buy their first home and then subsequently renovate it. What’s so great about the show is the couple. The husband’s name is Rod, but his wife Nat calls him Hot Rod. Now Rod is a big boy and she’s full of sass. They play off each other better than most professional actors. Their one-liners are something you wish you would have thought of, so you’ll start using their phrases in daily conversation. If you are interested in checking out the show it airs Mondays at 9:00pm on HGTV. Yes it’s another reality show but like the many that I am embarrassed to say I watch (mainly on Bravo) this one is fun. If you’ve seen it, tell us your opinion.

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While at Target my weakness for all things salty caught up to me when I purchased chips (Sun Chips) at the end of a random aisle. The chip bag, advertises that they’ve made the world’s first 100% compostable package, which is a good thing. Now purchasing the chips themselves isn’t that interesting but I must state after I got them home and decided to enjoy my salty snack they actually made me laugh, seriously. Reason, every time I pull the bag out of the pantry or reach into the bag it makes the MOST incredible noise. The bag is so loud that it’s comical. With this snack, I can no longer eat mindlessly in front of the TV wondering later how many xyz’s I’ve eaten. This bag might as well have an alarm on it that tells everyone in my home that I’m snacking! Now I could put the chips in a bowl but then that wouldn’t be very fun. So, what’s your favorite snack?

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This morning my family visited the local farmers market. The market had peaceful music and of course amazing produce, breads and cheeses. Just the smell of the fresh produce was enough reason to get up early on a Sunday. We decided to create our lunch menu out the trip so we purchased some scrumptious looking heirloom tomatoes, lettuce, cheese, balsamic vinegar, and warm artesian bread. In addition to enjoying the outdoors, this was a great way to talk to our little one about fresh fruits and veggies. It’s also nice knowing we are supporting the local growers. If you are stuck in a rut with your menu planning or are craving some fresh fruits and vegetables, might I suggest your local farmers market. There really is nothing better than cooking with the freshest of Mother Nature’s bounty. What’s your best farmers market find or recipe?

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You’ve probably heard this before but American’s are watching a lot of TV. According to About.com, “The television is turned on an average of 7 hours and 40 minutes per day in many U.S. households”. That’s almost an entire work day! Generally we don’t let our daughter watch TV which results in great play time together. However I’m human and will occasionally have the TV on throughout the day. I notice when the TV is on I’ll stop playing with her to catch a few minutes of a show. Sad to think that during that moment the show is more important than focusing on our tea party. As a result of this realization, I am going to make a conscious effort to reduce the amount of TV watching by turning it off after our morning news and back on after dinner. Our substitute will be playing music in the house throughout the day. How about you, are you working to watch less?

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Following a soiree at our home a good friend told me, “you throw a good party.” Actually the art of throwing a good party relies on your guests. If your guests are fun and interesting you could probably serve white bread and some $10/bottle wine and people would tell you, great party! There are a few party essences that we find key to creating a fun atmosphere: 1) Music. I’ve been to several home cocktail parties where there is NO music playing. Music is a detail that should not be overlooked. 2) Food. Contrary to my earlier comment, guests love good food and good wine, so go ahead and splurge on the $12 bottle. Find a fun new recipe on www.epicuriuos.com 3) Attentive hosts. Do let your guests know how much you appreciate their attendance and make sure to make those introductions. Whatever the occasion or location parties build memories and relationships. How do you create a good party?

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Have you sent off a thoughtful note or e-mail to a friend lately? It’s easy to go through the day focused on ourselves, our tasks and obligations. What not as easy but more lasting is being thoughtful to those people you care about. Taking the time to show people you care is what relationships depend upon. Never exerting any effort to let people know you appreciate them is simply lazy. So send a quick e-mail to a co-worker about how you appreciate them and why or write your grandmother a nice card telling her how much she’s meant to you all these years. We all like to feel appreciated and loved so perhaps it’s your turn to show your loved ones how you feel, wouldn’t you agree?

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I used to work out fairly hard 3-4 times per week however over the past few months, I’ve been taking it easy and just walking. Walking is great, actually my preference is to run but my knees won’t allow it. Today I decided to return to a more intense workout and do the elliptical. The result of my workout was mental clarity and quite frankly it put me in a great mood. The improved mood came for no other reason than a good sweaty workout. I remember how my old workouts would make me less stressed, more rested and happier. I share this with you because sometimes we forget how much we need exercise to help our minds as much as our bodies. If you are feeling a bit sluggish or blue, do yourself a favor and go workout. I think your body and soul deserve to be happy and healthy, don’t you?

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All great ideas! Several years ago I was admiring a friend’s wine glasses. She proceeded to tell me that her aunt hand painted them. Being so impressed, I immediately went to www.michaels.com to order my glass painting kit. The instructions are simple and easy to follow. In addition to the kit, you will need glass pieces to paint (I suggest wine glasses) a few brushes and an oven. If you need some help with creativity, templates are even included. Hand painted wine glasses make a great gift. Nearly a decade later, my friends and family continue to tell me how much they love the glasses I painted for them. On a chilly winter day, this is a great activity and an even better gift. Good luck!

Lee

Lori you are so right, it is in noticing and enjoying the simple things in life that can feed ones mental hunger.
I like walking with a friend too, it is sometimes the best connection and conversations.

Lori

You can do all of the above but also grab a friend and get out and take a long walk. As long as you are dressed for the weather, the winter months are a great time to enjoy the outdoors!

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