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11/17/2009

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TV's Take

A laugh a day helps keep the doctor away. Okay I’m not 100% sure of that claim but it sounds good.
I love to laugh but apparently people really enjoy laughing at me while I laugh. Reason: they ‘say’ when I laugh hard I sound like a chicken. When a good friend of mine laughs she tries to talk, which is funny because you cannot understand a darned word.
The act of laughing hard makes me feel like I've just done 350 sit-ups. It also washes away any negativity in my brain and that is a wonderful thing.
Laughs vary as much as personalities and I enjoy most of them.
How about you, do you have a funny laugh or have a good laughing story to share?

TV's Take

I often wonder whether the blogs I’m reading are a real representation of my bloggy friends. I’d like to believe most of characters are real and not some highly inaccurate personal ad, but occassionally you have to wonder.
Perhaps many blogs are just like the more authentic reality TV shows; 40% real (or less) and 60% scripted?
What do you think? Are most blogs and bloggers really being real?

TV's Take

The Gray = The Insanity. I got my first gray hair when I was 18 – thank you genetics. I didn’t start seeing those buggers consistently until age 30; by 33 I was one with my ‘gray pulling tweezers’. Now, a few years later I have fallen prey to coloring it – booo. These days I spend 2+ hrs in the salon and $$$ on my hair cut and color – double boo! When I see cancer patients going through chemo, I realize I’m lucky to have hair. That said I really really really hate my gray hairs. They are crazy; in fact they are completely insane. They grow faster than the rest, most grow straight out while others curl into the shape of some foreign object. This post is not at all intellectual but rather it’s simply about admitting the fact that my gray hairs make me insane. Am I alone?

TV's Take

Here is a literal post for this topic...I’ve struggled with my skin prior to my teens and recently I was telling a friend about my skin woes. She proceeded to tell me that, like me, she’s tried every expensive skin treatment around and the one product that works like a charm was Neutrogena Advanced Solutions Complete Acne Therapy System. She saw my expression and said, “I know, I never would have thought it would have worked but just try it”. Three days later I bought the treatment system, which includes a very simple three step process. After two months of using it, I must say my skin looks so much better. I still get the occasional noticeable flaw (I hate the other descriptive words) but I’m definitely not embarrassed about my skin anymore. If you are interested, Walmart sells the Neutrogena System for $21.50. Got any good skin tips to share?

TV's Take

Do you ever see yourself in a photo and say, “Hey are my arms really that chubby or Gee my hair does not look terrific”? I do and it’s always somewhat surprising and disappointing because when I checked myself out in the mirror I looked better than the picture reflected. Sure the camera adds some lbs and sometimes it does not capture us in the best light but there is something more interesting going on. When most of us stand in front of the mirror we see what we want to see. We don’t focus on our less attractive angles because quite frankly most of us don’t want to see them. Perhaps that’s not wrong; who wants to focus on the negative all the time? Reflection of our character works in much the same way. We focus on what we want to focus on and often times don’t want to reflect upon our true selves or what we need to change. The mirror may not lie but we certainly manipulate the things we want to see. What do you think?

TV's Take

I’m not sure if I’m alone on this one but typically twice a year there is a relationship or two in my life that needs a little TLC. Sometimes the relationship just needs more attention while other times it forces me to adjust my attitude or expectations. Either way these relationship ‘check-ups’, can be challenging in that any positive adjustment is, so many times, short lived. This result is either because of me and my actions or the lack of effort coming from the other soul. It’s my belief that all relationships should be healthy and fairly easy and enjoyable. I’m just wondering if others have this same challenge. If so, do you sometimes wonder whether that relationship is even worth it?

TV's Takes

Examining your imperfections. Looking into a mirror can reveal your external assets and imperfections. When you experience a negative situation that makes you reflect upon your soul it can be an uneasy feeling. There are usually two outcomes from these experiences 1) positive/learning moment 2) negative/didn’t learn a darned thing. We would all like to say that we use these moments to learn, but that doesn’t always happen. Examining ourselves should not end after we look away from the bathroom mirror. Life gives us many opportunities to self examine our character but so often we just move on and try to forget. Seeing ourselves clearly requires humility, patience and understanding. No one can make you evolve; only you can make that happen. The next time you are faced with a challenging situation, take a moment and assess how best to move forward. No one is perfect on the outside or in, but that shouldn’t stop us from working at it, right?

TV's Take

Stressful Days. Have you ever had one of those bad days/weeks at work that just lingers with you? This past week was a challenge for me but today was the cherry on top. It was one of those days that just sat at the forefront of my brain waiting to be thought about whenever my mind was not focused on something else. These types of bad days are the ones that seem so incredibly important when they are happening but in a month from now I’ll hardly remember it. The key to getting over bad work days is to sincerely try to avoid them. Keeping calm, being thoughtful, effectively communicating and accepting responsibility are helpful skills for me during stressful times/days. Over the past week I let the various work situations get the best of me and I became incredibly frustrated. I did not enjoy my time at home with my family because my mind was so busy processing work. Letting go of the bad stuff is a good trait but it can be so hard. Time helps me get over bad situations; laughter also helps a great deal. What are some things you do to get over a bad day/week?

Frankie

Letting the past go? Yes... I am a pro! Some of it had made me who I am today so this is my foundation and I moisturize it ! But some of it is no use to me and I keep it in the hard drive of my memory, which so far hasn't crashed! So whenever I need it, it's easy to recall, use and store again. It's the make up of my mind.

TV's Take

There are some post experiences we'd like to forget but our Klutzy stories can teach us about Humility.
One of my most outrageously embarrassing moments occurred while I was with my mother. One Saturday we decided to have lunch and do some shopping at a nearby mall. As we strolled through the mall I asked if we could go into a store to buy a cheap sweater because it’s always cold in the restaurant we were going to dine at. As we went into the store my mom went one way and I went another – typically how I shop with friends and family. After a few minutes we met in the middle of the store and each agreed to look through the store once more for any sweaters on sale. Again going our separate ways, I walked to the front of the store and she went to the back. As I browsed through the clothes, remembering how cold the restaurant would be, my quest to find a simple sweater was overwhelming. As I shopped next to the large display windows, my ankle gave out on an uneven part of the wooden floor and I subsequently lost my balance. My slow collapse toward the floor had begun. I started to grab for anything that would prevent my fall, of which would be seen by everyone! In my haste the very things I was grabbing to prevent me from falling were now falling on top of me. These ‘things’ included large metal shelves, clothing and racks, all of which made a loud noise as they hit the floor. As I lay on the ground covered in clothes and pinned down by shelves and clothing racks I heard my mom say, “Oh my god, that’s my daughter, Tesha.” My mother might as well have yelled out my social security number. A few moments later my Mom and one of the employees removed the clothes and racks and helped me stand. My knees were bloody and my ego was on life support. My dear mother went on to inform the sales clerk about how I had knee surgery a few years prior and that she hoped this accident, in their store, would not cause further injury. Upon conclusion of her potential lawsuit claim she turned to me and asked me if I wanted to shop in the store anymore. I looked at her half crying and laughing and said, “No, let’s get out of here!” We proceeded to the cold restaurant where we laughingly retold the story to each other over and over.
As you can see from the story above, I am a klutz. Every 6 to 9 months I am good for one fall or embarrassing act. Each incident humbles me, gives me permission to laugh at myself, reminds me of my imperfections and gives others the freedom to share their stories.
What are your most humbling experiences?

Lauren

The past is the past, and change is an integral part of embracing that and simultaneously moving forward. Change can be scary and hold many unknowns. Here is a great piece about dealing with the initial transitional stages http://www.first30days.com/blog/main/2009/12/things-you-can-control-during-transitions-and-change/

Spa for the Soul

Hi Justin! Welcome to the blog and I hope you continue to comment. You are insightful and have such a great outlook and attitude. I agree the Coulda, Woulda, Shoulda and What if dialog in our heads is not a good use of our energy and keeps us from seeing what is in front of us.

Justin

Every step, decision, action and consequence has shaped who we are at this present point in time. Effectively, our past largely shapes who we are today. However, I don't believe in dwelling in the past for the sole reason that there is nothing you can do to change it. Sure, you can learn from it....or change your perspective on certain events, but that doesn't change what happened. Playing the "what if" game doesn't help either because you are playing with hypothetical scenarios- which quite frankly probably only makes you feel worse in some cases. But there is much to learn about us from our past...and much to gain from it if we choose to. Learning to accept (and perhaps forgive...maybe even embrace?) the past can be huge for exfoliating old layers and revealing a fresh look.

Spa for the Soul

Hi Dave, Don't scrub too hard! Our past makes us who we are today in this very moment. That's a good thing from what I hear!

W & K

Exfoliating the past to us is realizing how much we really don't need. This past year we've lived in two states, both fully furnished homes, and now finally back and looking at this empty home with a whole new perspective of what's really important. So by getting rid of the things that were once important to us we have made room for new things and most importantly we're ready for our baby girl who is due in December.

Dave- Savannah, GA

This is an interesting topic...I think the older you are the thicker your skin is so the harder to "exfoliate"...just have to scrub harder! What about those scars that life leaves on us?

Kim-Bend, Oregon

Pause, let go and learn.

Marie

cool that is a great attitude the past is so passe right?

Kim-Bend, Oregon

I think I'm really good at it but not perfect. I try to learn from it and move on.

Marie

Hi Kim, It is a great topic and I want to know how you deal with the past if you can't let it go? Do you have some advice for me as I too have trouble at times and with certain emotionally related things to let go.

Kim-Bend, Oregon

So this is a great topic! I would challenge anyone who can honestly say they can let the past go.

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